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Firstly, rather than concentrating on the decline of marriage, the Archbishop focused on the positive impact of marriage, both as a societal institution and for the lives of individuals. The demands of marriage, he argued, were part of human maturing, not, as is often snidely inferred by cynics and second rate comedians, the end of individual freedom.
Secondly, his talk managed to give credit to a group of people who are frequently ignored in the debate about the decline of marriage, namely couples who remain married. These were people, he said, who displayed a “prosaic heroism”. All too often, the discussion on this issue focuses on society's failures in respect of marriage. Dr Williams rightly showed that there is another side to the story.
However, his most welcome intervention was to lay out the reason for the centrality of marriage to a healthy society. While endless policy documents and social science research has showed how marriage is a better model for social flourishing, it rare for those involved in the debate to dwell on why it should be so. Dr Williams tells us. “Think this through for a moment: the committed relationship of husband and wife in marriage says to people around, and most importantly of all, says to the children of that marriage, it's quite possible to live as a human being, not afraid at any moment that you're going to be let down, abandoned, left to yourself. Someone is actually committed to be there for you.”
In other words, marriage is the indispensable means of transmitting the value of commitment and solidarity. Without its radical demands to faithfulness, even during the toughest of challenges, it is difficult for us to grow. An obvious truth, when you think about it. But one all too rarely elaborated.
Britain's' Equality Act of 2006 is a piece of legislation pushed into being under EU pressure. Its laudable aim is to outlaw discrimination towards people on grounds of - listed in this order - age, disability, gender, sex-change, race, religion, belief or sexual orientation. (The order is interesting. Is there an implied hierarchy that values my aged transgenderism over your one-legged voodoo?).
"If I were asked to design a system for making sure that children's basic needs were met, we would probably come up with something quite similar to the two-parent ideal...The fact that both parents have a biological connection to the child would increase the likelihood that the parents would identify with the child and be willing to sacrifice for that child, and it would reduce the likelihood that either parent would abuse the child.."
Sara McLanahan and Gary Sandefur, "Growing up with a single parent: What hurts, what helps."